Let’s Talk Money, Shall We?
Reflections and Lessons from the Anxiety of Building My Dream—and Getting Paid for It
This one feels heavy. I’m not sure I have all the answers, but I do have a lot of reflections I wanted to capture and share.
Lately, I find myself at a pivotal moment. The work I’ve been doing—bringing together the Her Way Home community and offerings—is finally becoming more tangible. Until now, it’s felt like an exploration: no clear agenda, no set goals. But with structural ideaas slowly emerging, I find my good old friend, my inner critic, ask me … Is it good enough?
When I sat with that feeling, I realized it wasn’t about my ability to hold space for women. It was about money.
Will I be paid for this?
Will women see this offering as worthy of their investment?
Will they see me as worthy?
So, I turned to what I do best - learning.
In pursuit of understanding women’s relationship with money, I spent over 14 hours last week diving into the teachings of money mindset and feminine wealth coaches like Kate Northrup, Nicole Brennan and Margot DeBroglie.
Here’s what I’ve learned so far:
Money is nothing but a shared belief
Money, at its core, is simply a medium of exchange that represents perceived value. It exists because we collectively decided it should. It’s a man-made concept.
In reality, money is a piece of paper, metal or a number on a digital screen. And yet we as women tie so much of our self-worth to it
As per Margot, our relationship with money is shaped by the stories we have heard. She puts it on two axes -
Horizontal: These are the messages we pick up from culture and media. For example: Rich people are evil. Our obsession with money is destroying the planet.
and
Vertical: These come from our upbringing—parents, teachers, school systems. For example: Money only comes to those who work hard. Money doesn’t grow on trees.
These stories blend into a unique cocktail of beliefs for each of us. Some are empowering. But for most women, they’re anything but.
So here’s a radical idea:
If money is a made-up story, why not write your own?
This thought floored me.. If money is something created by people like you and me, then we get to redefine its meaning in our lives. Maybe it’s a tool for world peace. Maybe it’s simply not tied to our worth.
In a recent video, Kate Northrup talked about a major disservice we do ourselves as women—tying our self-worth to what we charge. And it’s true.
We are innately worthy—regardless of what someone pays us.
How we price our goods or services is about perceived value, not personal value.
Two speakers might deliver similar insights, but one charges €200 and the other €20,000. Why? Because of how their value is perceived—not because one is more worthy than the other.
So maybe we’re asking the wrong question.
Instead of:
“How much is X paying me?”
We should be asking:
“How much value am I creating for X?”
Here’s the empowering part:
The value you create is within your control. YAY!!
And when others perceive that value, they’ll pay accordingly.
Heal in action. Turn your fear into fuel.
One of the biggest aha moments from this week?
Realizing I’m the one holding the power in my relationship with money.
From the stories I choose to believe,
To the value I create for my community,
I am in control.
As Nicole Brennan put it:
When the dream is bigger than the fear, the dream wins.
Yes, it’s possible I’ll launch my offer and no one buys. But that’s not a reflection of my worth.
It would simply mean:
I need to redesign the offering.
I need to find a better way to serve women on their reinvention journeys.
I might need a part-time job to support myself in the meantime.
Because the truth is—whatever I feel is being done to me, is often what I’m unconsciously doing to myself.
FOR YOU:
Here are a few journal prompts to explore your own relationship with money:
- What is your relationship with money?
- What stories have you been telling yourself about it? Where do they come from?
- Do you control your ability to make money, or does money control you?
I’d love to hear what’s coming up for you.
Reply and tell me what’s been holding you back from building a healthier, more empowered relationship with money.
I read every message. It helps me shape better content for you.